Tuesday, July 30, 2013

66 Books - 30, July 2013

Any of you parents out there wonder where you can get the best parenting advice? Information that will help you raise your children to be God-fearing individuals? Look in the Bible - on your shelf, your bedside stand, your desk, your Kindle/Nook/iPhone/Android, your computer, or your nearest book store.

Check out my post today for some of my thoughts.


Proud to Tandem Nurse

I made the choice to tandem nurse while pregnant and after my second daughter was born. This may or may not be your choice, and that is okay. Here are my thoughts, in response to a post on the Authentic Parenting blog - Tandem Nursing - Blessing or Curse?


I tandem nursed with my two girls. My goal for breastfeeding is to nurse at least until each of my children are 2 years old (or longer). I learned I was pregnant again when my first born had just turned one, and there was no way I was going to stop breastfeeding her - it wasn't her fault I got pregnant.

There were times that it was so painful I would cry during her feedings. It was physically exhausting as well. I know my body is designed to nourish as many children as necessary but being sick well into my fifth month made it very hard; I almost gave up multiple times. To help me push through those difficult days, I backed off to nursing 3 times a day rather than on demand.

I caught SO MUCH flack from everyone (lactivist friends excluded), especially my ObGyn. Fortunately, my husband was one of the supportive ones. He didn't fully understand my decision, but trusted me to know my body and take care of myself and our children, both born and in the womb.

After I birthed my second daughter, I continued to nurse both girls for about 8 months. At first, I nursed them both on demand. I felt that would both help my supply become well established and help with any sibling rivalry or jealousy that my older daughter may be experiencing. After about a month, I continued nursing my infant on demand, but reduced my toddler’s feedings to 3 times a day again, upon waking, at nap time, and at bedtime.

About 2 months ago, from the writing of these thoughts, nursing my 2 ½ year old became painful again, to the point that I would become so irritated with her it was spoiling the experience for both of us. It was a little like fingernails on a chalkboard. Because she also didn’t seem that into it and had weaned herself to only once or twice a day, I decided that I was going to quit nursing her completely.

I was a little nervous about how she would respond to being cut off, but she handled it very well. When she would ask for ‘milk’, I asked her if she wanted ‘white milk’ or ‘chocolate milk’ (a little treat for adjusting so well) and I would offer her selection in a special sippy cup. I think giving her the choice helped empower her through the change.

For me, the process was bittersweet. Knowing that I would never again feel the tug at my breast from my oldest was sad, another ‘letting go’ in the journey of motherhood. And yet, being freed to enjoy the special bonding time with my youngest, alone, brought me a lot of happiness.

So, to answer the question “is tandem nursing a blessing or a curse?” I would have to say: a blessing! It was a blessing for both of my daughters and it was a blessing for me. The moments spent with my children together, the special bonding that happened over the ‘dinner table’ between my girls, the nourishment I have been able to give, far outweigh the challenges of tandem nursing. I wouldn’t have done it any other way.

Saturday, July 27, 2013

A Special HOME Coming - Part 2

The video is a little reminiscent of "The Blair Witch Project" and we've since made some changes to how we are going to utilize the rooms (as seen on the floor plan in the previous post), but...



Welcome to Our New Home!!! 

A Special HOME Coming

Since before Richard and I got married, I have been praying that God would provide us private housing, a place for our family to grow closer together and a place to host friends and family, anyone who would like to come to India to visit us { hint, hint ;) }. Though much of our married life we have been separated by continents, most of the time we have had together has been either in Richard’s parents house (according to custom for the oldest son) or in a room in the HOC Orphanage.

Both places have been a blessing, but they have also been less than private and left us with little alone time for our family.  I definitely see the value in living with Richard’s parents, but an abundance of mosquitoes and a lack of running water, consistent electricity, and adequate bathroom facilities left me frustrated and grateful that we could live at the orphanage, even though we were on-call 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Over this past year, I will admit, I have been feeling rather hopeless about the situation and full of anxiety about our return to India—4 people in 150 square feet of livable space with little kitchen access is a less than ideal situation.

When I arrived in India with the girls this month, Richard greeted us at the airport (sorry, we don’t have any pictures of ‘the moment’). In the midst of the last 18+/- hour leg of our journey, Richard told me that we would be living in his parents’ village, and that they had a surprise for me. I assumed that it was going to be the bathroom addition with running water that had been vetoed earlier the year before; Richard allowed my assumption.

It was well past 9pm when we arrived at the house and very dark. We herded up the stairs, bleary eyed and yearning for bed. Richard was fiddling around at the top of the steps, when I realized that the door to the second floor terrace was different. It was a solid wood, double door with a large skeleton key lock, in place of a wobbly metal door that scraped the step when it opened.

Richard unlocked the door, took a few steps, and switched on the lights. Instead of walking onto the terrace that I was expecting, I walked into a room painted robin’s egg blue with off-white tile flooring. I looked around the room in shock, questioning whether or not I was still in the van, fallen asleep and dreaming.

Richard proceeded to usher me into the dwelling which only a year before had been the open-space rooftop my in-laws used to dry rice and chili peppers in the sun.

My astonishment had my jaw open to the floor. Here I was standing in an apartment that we could finally call home. A place that will allow us to be a family together, while still very close to Richard’s parents. An apartment—a kitchen, a bathroom, 4 rooms that we can stretch out in, and even some outdoor space—575 square feet of glorious space.

God has always known the desires of my heart because He put them there. And He truly is Jehovah Jireh; providing in the most unexpected ways, blessing me and our family even more than I could have imagined.

Thank you, Lord, for our new home!



(video tour to follow)

66 Books - Juliet2912 Post Archives

Though I haven't been diligent in posting the links, I have continued into the 2013 year with the 66 Books in a Year book club. For those of you who are interested in catching up on my contributions, here is the link to the archives of my weekly posts:


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